I know, I'm sure you thought I would probably never write again. But alas, here I am. Of course it is only fair... given that circumstances that you may not be reading this anymore. I get that. And I'm ok with it. But I've been pondering a question, and I think it would be interesting to find out what people think about it.
Yep, you guessed it... It's a dating question. Kind of a dangerous topic, and could easily take a turn for the worse, but I think it could be helpful, both to me and to those who respond (or perhaps not to either, but still...)
As a preface I have to say that I know I'm not a perfect dater, And I'm not entirely sure what I think the answer to this question is, or perhaps even what I think the answer to the other side of this question is. Though I have been giving it some thought, but for now, I'd kind of just like to hear what you think. whoever you are. Ü
So here's the question:
What is a girls role in dating? or if you prefer, what is her job, or responsibility, or any other words that seems to fit better (though I will say if you choose to answer a somewhat modified question, I hope you will share the question as well).
I welcome your thoughts.
4 comments:
The role of girls in dating is as varied as the number of girls in this world. Each girl will have a different perspective of what she "should" do in this realm and even that changes a bit depending on who she is dating or considering dating. It's a chemical reaction that is dependent on what two chemicals are being brought together. Get the "right" combination of chemicals and you get the reaction you want, ie love/marriage/happiness.
You want a definition for what a girl's role is in dating, but really, you need to find a girl who dates either the same way you do or maybe who has a different style but one that you like just as much or better than what you thought you wanted. I know men who want a woman to be the initiator in the relationship - the one who asks them out, who initiates the first kiss, etc. - and I know guys who want to be the one to do all those things. Most are somewhere in between. The important thing is to find a girl who fits what you want and you fit what she wants.
I can't say I dated a ton in my life, but the few months before I met Steve were certainly really active dating-wise, which gave me a lot of experience in a short amount of time. It helped me recognize how perfect for me Steve was...is. Like I said before, it just took finding the right "chemical". You can't rush it or force it, but you'll know it when you find it, and it's totally worth waiting for.
Wow, I really like Julie's answer... that the roles depend on who the individuals are in those roles.
My thoughts are kind of scattered right now, but I'm mostly thinking the answer to your question is another question... What is a person's role in creating a friendship?
That's not my complete answer... but 90% of it. The other 10% is more related to what you really want to know, I suppose. From my some-what traditional point of view, I'd say a girl's role is to give the guy a chance to win her heart.
Julie, It makes me so happy to hear from you.I'm so glad to hear that you are happy.
Sarah, I LOVE that question. I think it is actually a really good answer.
I will expound more at a later date
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