Saturday, May 20, 2006

The odd man out

I guess I've always kind of been the O.M.O.
Often by choice, but often not too.

The other day Johnson got married.
Johnson was the last... well last except me.
This was my group.
This was my possee.
Well sort of.
These were the people my age,
but I spent more time with them than they spent with me..
They were generally pretty nice,
but I wasn't essential to the experience.

I guess things are better now. I'm still the O.m.o., I wasn't wearing green like everybody else. but they did come find me for the after party. College was fairly similar,
Almost all of my roomates were engaged, so people rarely came to visit. One year I had a whole building to myself. (12 apts. & 36 rooms, but just one tenent, me, the o.m.o.
I guess that's why I want a wife,
someone who has to spend time with me.
Yes, the gang is better now,
but they're all married so that changes things.
You know, married people are different,
sometimes is location, sometimes it't repsonsibility,
But I know that non of them see any of the rest of uss all that often.
So maybe now we have all become the odd man out.
I more than they, but all of us more than before.

21 comments:

Anonymous said...

Maybe this is "your thing" that you have to overcome in life. I think I've discovered "my thing" and it's that I care a little too much about what people think of me. It is constantly getting in my way - in lots of different scenarios. But... hopefully I'm making progress.

Oh... and not to put a damper on anything, but I must tell you that as far as I have ever heard: wives choose to be with their husbands.

Cardine said...

Interesting portion: "I guess that's why I want a wife,
someone who has to spend time with me."

warnser said...

Yep that's part of it.

warnser said...

That would be nice, too, someone who would choose to be with me.

julie said...

Somedays I wonder what it's really like to be married. I don't think it'll be anything like living with your family, roommate, or mission companion. I'm not sure what it'll be like. Sometimes I'm curious enough to actually think "I hope I get married someday".

warnser said...

that's odd, I do think it will be just like living with family, and companions, and roomates, or at least parts of all of them,
but more too.

tearese said...

yes, all true. Like having a roomate and a brother and a friend.....you get annoyed but know they're never moving out, when you're angry you know it doesnt mean you can't be friends anymore (hopefully) and you love each other despite all of your shortcomings.

Cardine said...

Hello. That's all I'm going to say. Hello.

warnser said...

I guess I don't get it.
???????

Cardine said...

Yes, apparently.

warnser said...

And I have to admit usually a girl is too arrogant to tell someone what they don't know, but you surprised me.
I know we're just supposed to know, if we could just think like those of you who are more enlightened things would be so much better.

Well I guess I'm not to proud to ask, so, I still want to know what the comment means.

Cardine said...

"And I have to admit usually a girl is too arrogant to tell someone what they don't know..."

Could this be part of the problem? Do I detect some general harshness towards my gender? Is it possible that you actually don't like females? Do you think that females or "wanting a wife" is a necessary evil or do you actually enjoy people, females being some of them, sufficiently to want to be around them, not because you have to spend time with them if you get a wife? Your comments cause me to stick up for my gender. This is sad.

For the explanation of what my comment means, I will e-mail you. Read it at your own risk. It may be ranting.

warnser said...

Yes I thought that might happen.
I'm sorry if I was rude,
And I suppose I could be classified as a misogynist.
but deep in my heart I would like to believe that there are girls with typical girl characteristics that are good, and with a lesser portion of the ones that I don't like.
I think my next post will clarify a little,
Or it could make things worse.
I have been known to do that too.
I guess we'll see.

Cardine said...

"typical girl characteristics"

I think this is the problem.

warnser said...

Like it or not girls are different from guys, typically shorter, typically physically less strong, typically interested in different things. And typically approach a situation with a different method.

I do think this email will be informative, and for that I am grateful.

As for my comment, I don't know of a tv show female, or a real live girl that wouldn't say "If you don't know... than I won't tell you."

Which is how I took your comment,
which like it or not, is what I see as typical.

Cardine said...

I am 100% sure that Julie, Sarah, and Tearese wouldn't say that. I wouldn't, either.

TV isn't an accurate representation of real life. Sorry.

tearese said...

yay Cardine.

warnser said...

I don't know who would say it,
but that's still what it sounded like to me.

And no I don't believe that TV is a very accurate representation of life,
but when they want to make a joke,
they usually try to use a situation that a large segment of their viewing public can relate to, and since this is a very common tv theme, I think it is safe to assume, that many girls would say something of that nature, but surprisingly, this type of phrase has been heard coming from some of the least likely mouths.

tearese said...

okay, I have a confession to make. I think I've used that phraze with my husband before. But I dont think I really used it before I got married.
Its just in marriage its like you're so much closer it seems like your spouse should now understand how you think. I'm still learning that this will probably never be true.
Again, I never used this phrase before marriage though.

julie said...
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warnser said...

Tearese Thank you for your honesty,
I beleive people can get closer, the longer they are married,
but it is good to recognize, that sometimes we still need a little help.

This was a very brave comment,
And I commend you for everything you have said in it.
Well Done